Talk about your experience with mentorship, what you gained from it and what you wish you had. This will allow the student to get a different viewpoint on the purpose of mentoring. It will also allow them to see you in a more normal capacity and not just a person they were told they should look up to.

 

3. Fill In The Gaps

 

Having a mentor is hard. It's like being adopted by someone and feeling pressured to get to know them and impress. We often look at mentoring from the mentor's perspective and rarely from the mentees' viewpoint. Ask how the student feels about being mentored. Do they know what it means? What are their expectations? What are they looking for and what do they need? We, as mentors, often step up to the plate and expect kids to have their lives mapped out, only needing us to help them call the plays. Sometimes these kids have no clue they are even in a game. Fill in the gaps and see where they are and where they are coming from. Find a game plan to get them to where they may need to be.


The word mentor is defined as someone who is an adviser and trains people. That definition leaves out the personal connection necessary to have whatever it is that you are teaching them to register. The moment we view mentoring as a softer version of parenting, the sooner we will see its real value and purpose. We never stop learning. You are shaping the future, the reality, and the legacy, of each and every one of your mentees. You do the same thing with your friends, coworkers, family, and associates. Make mentoring more personal and about connection before prerequisites.